Julz: The Secret Society

The Secret Superheroes 

I don’t remember chasing a funny white rabbit, 

Neither did I fall down a magical hole;

Entering a dream that is undoubtedly never ending.

The Muggles versus the Wizards.

Superman and Clark Kent.

Bruce Wayne and Batman.

The Mother versus the Bereaved Mother. 

Only the final one didn’t give me Super Powers,

Our poison isn’t as simple as Kryptonite.

And we certainly can’t hide behind a cape and costume.

Like The Superheroes we have to be careful who we reveal our secrets to.

We’re not deadly.

But somehow we come across as terrifying

Though we don’t get given a wand 

Or even lessons on how to use our “powers” 

But we’re expected to know how to use them.

Our magical powers is living

With child sized hole in our hearts.

Expected to read minds,

To know who we can speak to, 

How far we can take the conversation. 

Is it easier to say 3 or 4?

Who am I trying to save?

Save people “normals” from the entirety of a pain,

But saving them by raising awareness so they never have to 

Endure this journey.

You could say we’re The Avengers 

No two parents' loss is the same

But we all have the power to save

The strength to break the thick wall of silence

Our magical power is

Breathing

xxxxx

Katy: Happy 1st Birthday

A message to our boys on their first birthday...

Dear Matthew and Oliver,

Today you would have turned 1. If you were here, I'm sure that we would have had a really fun day with all your family. I would have made you each a cake (as soon as we found out that there were 2 of you we had decided that you shouldn't have to share a birthday cake!) We would have also had a little party and you would have had loads of pressies. I often wonder what you would be like now, what we would have brought you for your birthday, what you would be doing and little things like what colour your eyes would be.

But you aren't here, because you will always be 6 days old. However, that doesn't mean that we can't still have a special day for you. Me, Daddy and your Sisters are going to go in to town and see your special butterfly on the wall at the museum. After that we are going to plant a lovely tree we have brought for the garden. It is a Japanese Maple and the leaves go bright red every autumn. This means that it will look fabulous on your birthday every year. It also has a colourful sign so that everyone can see that it is in memory of two special boys.

We have also got a little present for your sisters. It is a book all about you so that they can grow up knowing all about their big brothers. They are a bit too small to understand it at the moment but I'm sure that they will love it when they are a bit bigger.

Me and your Dad still miss you both terribly and Emily and Sophie, your little sisters, would have loved to have met you. But we will try and make your birthday as happy as we can, a wonderful celebration of the two of you!

You can read more about Katy and her journey in her own blog 1 in 10 Thousand

Wave of Light 2013 Memorial Photos

For our little girls Molly & Grace whom we held in our arms for only a few hours but who are always in our hearts. Also remembering 3 little stars we never got to meet and all the little ones gone too soon from our lives. xxx

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Candles lit in memory of Isaac and all the other babies that were too precious to stay with us. Forever missed and always loved and remembered. x

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For our baby girl Ayla Hope Reading 1/2/12 - 4/2/12 and for all the babies that should be in our arms but instead will stay forever in our hearts x

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For my precious Louie and all his little angel companions. Forever in my heart xxx

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A candle burning brightly for Dinky and all the angels, lighting up the sky x

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Our candle shining brightly for our beautiful Imogen, all the other precious babies taken to soon and especially for baby lavelle who we laid to rest just this morning. May the world light up for you all. Love you to the moon and back Imi pops.

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Lighting a candle for Polly Skelton and all her other little angel friends

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International Wave of Light - for our little man, & all the tiny angels not with their mummies & daddies xxx

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 For our little princess Amelia-Mae Floaty kisses to all our little ones xxxx

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For Chloe and all our precious angels x

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My beautiful boy Oliver. Always in our hearts. Xxx

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A beautiful photo from Melody's mummy, Julz, who held a very special event tonight in her local Church. You can read more about this wonderful event here:
Capture Your Grief Day 15: Wave of Light

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For our baby boys x x

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For my baby boy Angel xx

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In memory of Katie 17/03/10, Taylor 27/07/97 and Max 20/01/07.

Beautiful angels playing among the stars. x

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For Seren Evelyn Jones 31/05/13

And for Bobby, Beatrice, Archie, and Kyle and all the other angels I am saddened but honoured to know about. Xxx

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Candles for my angels

Olivia Shorrock 02-04-2012 39+3 weeks pregnant

And Ben Johnson lost at 22 weeks pregnant x

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Thinking of all those beautiful angels gone too soon.  X x x

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xx Laura xx

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In memory of my forever sleeping son James x

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Thinking of my girls Emily and Beth and all the other little angels x

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xx Joseph xx

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For Seren 05.11.12-29.01.13 and Bean 2 30.09.11 and Bean 4 lost today xxxx

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Jessica and all the Angels x

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xx Baby Amison xx

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xx Maison xx

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For Max Charles and all the other babies who's amazing parents I have met in the last year and a half. We remember you little ones. xxxx

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All the angel babies in my thoughts tonight xxx

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xx Lucas xx

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For my sweet sweet angel, Grace. 23.9.13

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xx Olivia xx

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In memory of our beautiful baby boy Lucas. X

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For Laura and all the other little ones gone too soon x

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For Charlotte Sofia Hannah, 01/02/13, forever 42 minutes old, forever loved xxxx

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My candles for my beautiful daughter Rosalee Grace and all the precious babies and children taken too soon  xx

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xx Lola xx

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In loving memory of Georgie Currie, loved always xxx

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In loving memory of Riley & Reece Jnr.

Thank you to their mummy Aidean for remembering lots of little ones along with her boys xx

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For Nathaniel James list 17.12.11 and  beanie 24.11.10.

Always and forever in my heart until we meet again x

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For Lily xxx

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xx Maisie Rose xx

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My beautiful Frankie, forever my angel xx

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Bradley & Tyler's Wave of Light candles for them and their angel friends.
Think of them every day x

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Clara: Wave of Light 2013

For the third year in a row, I will be taking part in the Wave of Light to raise awareness for Pregnancy and Infant Loss.

For those who would like to take part, October 15th is the designated day of remembrance during Pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness month. The Wave of Light is an international event where people around the globe are asked to light candles at 7pm and leave them burning for one hour. The hope is that, as different timezones hit the 7pm mark, a continuous wave of light will move around the world. This also coincides with CarlyMarie's 'Capture Your Grief' photography project where Day 15's subject matter is this event.

This year I will be remembering my little girls and 3 little stars we never got to meet. We will also be asking family and friends to light a candle for them and send us the photo or post it on Facebook and tag us in it. I will add some of the photos here tonight.

In the meantime, you can read my post from last year by clicking on 'Wave of Light 2012' and here are some of our photos from that event also:

If you would like me to include your photos in memory of your own little ones, please email me at lossthroughthelookingglass@gmail.com and I will include them here tonight also.

Much love to all the bereaved families. I hope that tomorrow brings a little bit of light and peace into your homes.

Clara xxx

EDIT: I HAVE CREATED A SEPARATE POST FOR ALL THE MEMORIAL PHOTOS SUBMITTED TO THE BLOG. YOU CAN FIND THIS POST BY CLICKING HERE:

WAVE OF LIGHT 2013 MEMORIAL PHOTOS